If Graham was just sneaking around and letting his "lady bugs" out to fly and keeping his nose on his own face then it is none of my never mind which consenting individuals he is getting his freak on with.
Men are having different discussions in 2019. We started having different conversations a while ago. I remember first learning about Squirt.org when I was a "wee-gay" and one thing that for sure has not changed has been the Safer Sex practice descriptions.